A year and two weeks ago I graduated from high school. It is strange, looking back, how much has changed in only a year! Actually, it's more scary than strange. It doesn't feel like much has changed; I feel the same. But if I think about...um...everything...lots of things are different. For instance...this time last year, I had no knowledge about how amazing Sweeny Todd is! Or the awesomeness of Evita! Even those two musicals have turned out to somehow affect me more than music normally does, that is only the surface of what has happened in the past year.
Directly after graduating, I was the same old me, I guess. But the thing was, after I graduated, it was a little hard to get my thoughts together. I had this feeling like I couldn't quite grip the floor to walk on it, and that cold air was being blown in one ear, through every nook and cranny of my brain, and out the other ear. I don't know if this is the experience of everybody, or only people like me who, at that time, have no idea what their life's direction is. Or if one even existed for me at all.
I learned a lot. Have I mentioned that? I learned about freedom, serving, God, love, relationships, friendships, music, family....so many, many, many, many things.
By the time I turned 18 in August, I had my head on straight enough to not freak out. If I had turned 18 when I was 14, this would not have been the case, but there is a reason why I was not 18 when I was 14. Still, a few days after turning 18 and starting my classes at Wake Tech, the temptations started pouring in out of nowhere like a giant vat of hot water in the sky got knocked over by someone. Let's go clubbing. Let's go to a bar. Let's smoke. I was almost lured in by the attractiveness of the "in crowd", the "cool people" who were "experienced." (Yes, those were a lot of quotation marks.) I don't know how I could have even for a moment considered wasting my time, energy, money, and brain power for an experience. An experience that would cause me to compromise myself an hundred times in the duration of five minutes. I thought about doing it without my parent's permission at first. After all, I was 18! I could do what I wanted to. But...after a little thought, I didn't want to rebel. It did nothing but give me a sick feeling all over. I told my parents, and to my surprise they said I could do what I wanted to, though reminded me that they didn't think it was the best idea. It didn't take much more thought to decline my invitations of "cool" status, and get on with my life.
In January I decided not to take classes in the spring semester. I was tired of classes, especially since I was taking them without much of a clue as to where I was going in life (STILL). Somewhere along the way, though, I sat down with my parents and discussed it all. What did I want to do? Well, I really like writing. I'd really like to write a book; preferably more than one. They agreed that, if I took my writing seriously, with my goals in mind, I could do that. And another thing - I wanted to be a mom, right? Right. Then, there was one thing I needed to learn: how to be one. I needed to learn more than just the basics of cooking, cleaning, and teaching. Thus, I became, essentially, my mother's apprentice. This has since developed into a split thing with my dad, since not only am I doing a little on-the-side bookkeeping for him, I am now working part time. At this moment I feel bad because I am not getting as much done for my mom as I originally intended to, but I am working on better time management. If anybody has any book or website suggestions on time management and all-around organization skills, I would be much obliged if you would mention them.
I have learned a ton about God this year. The main thing is that he is NOT just a shoulder to cry on or somebody I must resign myself to sharing my deepest thoughts with simply because I don't feel like I can tell anybody on earth. I have learned more and more to appreciate what he has done for us. How amazing his plan is. He raised up the Israelites so that eventually they would help him save everyone. I realized I can't give God anything he doesn't already have, even if the thought counts, because he gave me that thought. I finally learned that works are for sanctification, but only belief can justify you. And if you obey God, it's not for you; it is for his pleasure. I don't know how I could have been so selfish to be constantly asking what the reason I have to obey God is, if I already believe in him and will be going to heaven. I mean, I still wanted to do those things, but there was always the question of why. And the only answer I could come up with was the half-baked "well, works must count for something; I'll probably get some trophies in heaven." NO!!!!! How could I have been so selfish?!??!?! Works are for the good of mankind, and - primarily - to make God happy! He has given me everything, and I don't even take the time out of my day to think that I might like to do something to make him happy. I can't believe how ignorantly human I have been. And another thing John Stonestreet (second favorite person now besides Jeff Meyers) said: "Look at it this way - the world was so bad, so terrible......that God died."
Love and relationships! Whoo-hoo. Every year I grow a little wiser, I suppose, so that by some time soon I might actually be wise enough to get married. This year, I learned a few very significant things. One is that lust is bad. Yes, I knew that, but I knew not what lust really was. I thought it was something guys did. Then I thought it may somehow include lusting about romantic happenings. But now I realize it encompasses so much more. A guy's cute face...staring at it...thinking about how cute he is...that is lust. Dreaming about how a guy can satisfy you emotionally...that is lust. I'm not trying to be legalistic here; the biggest thing about lust is it is an idol, and takes away from our passion for God. We are concentrating on other things; things which distract from his glory. And, really, it's not only lustful and idolatrous, but also covetous. I will touch on this and others in later entries, most likely, so I will briefly mention other things I have learned in this category: close, one-on-one friendships with the opposite sex are not a good idea. I'm not saying it's bad to be friends with the opposite sex; even good friends. But when you get closer than that...let's just say for now that it is not a good setup for things in the future. I definitely will touch on that in another entry. Before moving on, I want to mention one more thing I've learned: Eventually, the amazing and very popular-with-the-giggly-girls-who-bat-their-eyes-and-twirl-their-hair guys with swishy hair DO notice the quiet, bookish, introverted, non-flirtatious girls after all, even if only for a moment. :)
This year I have finally realized who my true friends are. They are wonderful true friends; the best in the world. For the first time in my life I have girl friends whom I can pour out my heart to, share everything with, and know they will understand and do the same. I respect and love these girls with all of my heart. I have guy friends, too, and while they are the best guy friends I could ever ask for, pouring my heart out to THEM is another matter addressed in the paragraph above; as in, I don't. Nonetheless, I still love them like brothers. Together we are one big happy family and I wouldn't trade my friends for anything in the world.
Music may seem a little less profound than the other subjects, but it is a major change. In late May I wrote my first real song on the piano, after having written songs only on guitar for the past 3 years or so. I really like the song I wrote, and after I wrote it, I decided that perhaps my family would like me to play more on the piano besides that one song, even though it was the only one I really knew besides little bits of Mozart and chopsticks here and there. So I played a little "Moon River" here and some "Fancier Chopsticks" there (the latter was me making an attempt at sheet music reading, which didn't go off to well). Finally, in mid-June I went to a play that my friends were in, and where another friend of ours played piano during intermission. That piano playing made me think it would be interesting to write a instrumental piece on the piano. 5 days later, that little 3-minute piece was completed, and I liked it well enough. After this, I started to write more. Since then I have only completed one other instrumental piece, but I have many other very long musical ideas ready for completion whenever the inspiration strikes me. I have written a few more songs on the piano, and a couple more on guitar. I also got a tin whistle in August for my birthday, and have been picking that up as well. I got a violin for Christmas, but at this moment posses absolutely no talent for the instrument, so I am on the lookout for instructional materials.
Family...!! I already loved my family, but now I love them even more. That is really all I need to say.
Things haven't been all sunshine and rainbows all the time. Fortunately, I seem to be able to look back and remember most easily the things that were good. I remember some of the bad things, too, but only things that were really, significantly unfortunate. I didn't remember how mad I was at some people at some point, until I looked back at my journal during that time. And I can see that I was mad just because I was being immature. Yes, they were also being immature, but I was just as bad, probably worse. But all in all, I remember the good things, and only the good outcome from the not-so-good things. I believe I am a better person than I was a year ago. Yeah, it sounds all serious. I promise to write more [less serious stuff] this summer. This fall is.....going to be extremely hectic if I don't get things under control before they begin. But I know that if I trust God to lead and guide me day-by-day, everything will all fall into place.
Thus begins another year of growing, changing, and shaping for me. I don't know what doors are going to open, which ones are going to close, and which ones are going to stay open and stay closed. God has been with me more and more as this past year has progressed. I know that this next year will continue that trend, even through the challenges. And I say: bring it on!
